As we dive into 2014 with new ideas, plans and goals for ourselves, I urge you to reflect on 2013. I’m talking about the good, the bad, and the sexy.

Unlike eating healthier, going to the gym, or being more organized, I have developed some New Year’s resolutions that require nearly no physical effort and pertain to your love life.

The first thing I want you to do is be honest.

Be truthful about what you want on both large and small scales. Whether it’s an issue of committing to someone or what your sexual interests are, open communication cultivates healthy relationships long term.

Do not agree to a situation in hopes that it will change. As the saying goes, you can’t screw someone into loving you. So don’t try to.

Many ex-lovers who feel betrayed aren’t mad at their partner’s actions, they’re mad that they were lied to.

From a health standpoint, deceiving a partner is actually taxing on the brain. The fear of facing consequences requires you to build on your lies and keep track of them. From then on your statements and actions are tailored to the façade you’re putting on, which is mentally exhausting.

The second thing I want you to do is remember to always use protection. According to statistics from  the American Sexual Health Association, 50 percent of sexually active people will contract a sexually transmitted infection by age 25.

Use condoms and find a reliable permanent birth control method that you’re comfortable with. Be screened for STIs regularly regardless of whether you show signs of infection. Many of these diseases are asymptomatic.

Oftentimes, people don’t know they are infected and in turn don’t receive treatment. Going untreated can inhibit fertility and have other physical consequences.

The third thing I want you to do is reconsider your concept of sexuality.

This year I want you to recognize that human sexuality is fluid. Explore your curiosities without shame. Don’t judge or label yourself and others. Studies show that sexuality is not binary, so don’t treat it as such.

According to a study published in the U.S. National Library of Medicine in 2008, 79 self-identified lesbian women were followed for ten years. Over the course of the study, two-thirds of the women changed their sexual identity, and some changed multiple times.

After you integrate these rules into your love life, here are some fun things I challenge you to do:

1. Schedule a date with someone every other week. Whether you’re single or coupled, make time for some healthy social interaction. Recognizing that you’re a college student with financial limitations, invite a person to do something you already had plans to do. Ask someone to come to a party with you or run errands and give your undivided attention without the production of a date.

2. Watch porn. If you don’t already, watch it. This one mostly goes out to the ladies. See it, understand it, and then re-evaluate if you should stigmatize this behavior. Unless your partner’s porn usage interferes with your sex life together, let it be. Understand that while porn is misrepresentative of human sexuality, it can positively impact relationships.

3. Incorporate massage into your love life. If you have the time, try a rub down every so often to enjoy the physical and mental benefits associated with massage. It also sets an experimental tone to sexual activity.

Finally, remember that being true to who you are is always in style. Even if you’re not sexually active, most of these resolutions can be applied to your life. Make choices that feel right to you.