Music can electrify almost any situation in life. It can give more meaning, focus and rhythm to anything from working out to washing dishes. So it just makes sense to try your hand at introducing music into the bedroom to spice up any saucy situation.

So with lights dimmed and tensions hot, you and that special someone in your life are about to embrace in the ultimate show of affection when vocals in the music chime in and whisper in your ear; “Mike Will Made it.”

Never have I pictured a mood killed faster.

This is the calling card of producer Mike Will. As advised by Cosmopolitan or Glamour magazines, songs like “Kisses Down Low” by Kelly Rowland or “Body Party” by Ciara, which both have the pointless Mike Will tag, are the perfect go-to tracks to set the mood.

Along with these songs are the suggested bedroom classics “Pony” by Ginuwine and “In The Air Tonight” by Phil Collins. I could go on listing the suggestions that actually vary across genres and years but there is eventually a point to be made.

It seems that currently, clichés and poorly-aged pop culture seem to rule the train of thought on music to play during sex.

These magazines, as well as countless user-created playlists across streaming platforms like Spotify, think they know what is best for you and your partner. All in all, the variety of the playlists are massive, almost as if each person who compiled them is in a different state of mind. Ironically, I think this is the exact reason why you should not listen to any of them.

Sex should be intimate, and given the time and effort put in to prepare something like music to go along with it, your music choice should be handpicked. My advice for choosing music to play in the bedroom is to choose music that is meaningful to you and your partner.

Just because a song has a funky bass line or has lyrics that are about sex, doesn’t mean it will enhance your experience. Think about what would make a more special gift: A dozen red roses, or flowers you picked out yourself that were your significant other’s favorite color?

I could try and tell you that country music is more genuine than rap when it comes to love themes, or that instrumental music allows you to focus on each other instead of song lyrics, but I am glad to say that since I do not know you or how you like to have sex, what is the point of me telling you what to listen to?

No wine connoisseur can tell you what wine to pair with your dinner unless they know what you are eating and as much as I love analogies, I do not think I will make a better one in my life.

So if music is something you want to introduce to the bedroom, then take the time and think about what music is special to your relationship. Then with that in mind, think about how the music will make you perform.

It may be true that instrumental electronic music may put you in a certain “rhythm,” but if you don’t like that type of music, then try something else. If you love country music but it brings up fond memories of your family road trips, think twice before trying to make love to Brad Paisley’s music.

So in the end, keep your partner in mind and remember to keep it about the intimacy, rather than thinking about what you have seen in pop culture.