Dear Life Section, 

I often find myself comparing myself to others on social media, and it makes me feel poorly about myself. How do I stop comparing myself to them and feel more confident in myself?

Sincerely, Hesitant Coug. 

Dear Hesitant Coug,

It is normal to compare yourself to others online, but noticing it is the first step toward self confidence. Remember, people usually post the highlights of their lives, and not the low moments. You do not see the full picture on social media. Recognizing your emotions and taking the next steps in fostering a positive relationship with social media are signs you are on the right path to feeling better.

Social media presents many difficult, unrealistic standards and expectations for young people. When everything seems perfect in someone’s life, you seem to wonder if there is something wrong with yours. The secret is, your life is already worthy as it is. Nobody is perfect, and the first step to confidence is accepting ourselves exactly as we are. 

Set healthy boundaries for your time spent online, and be aware of your thoughts. When you notice yourself comparing yourself to someone, take a break and redirect your attention to something that makes you feel positive. 

Another important step towards self-confidence is growth away from the screen. Instead of scrolling, find a hobby that makes you feel accomplished, proud and positive. Start by setting small goals for yourself that will build your confidence, then set larger goals. Whether that is taking a 20 minute stroll everyday or learning how to knit, it is important to have time to yourself without a screen distracting you. 

These tips will help you build your self-esteem, which in turn will help develop habits that prevent you from comparing yourself to others. Recognizing that we are all special in our own ways will fill you with positivity and empathy, rather than hurt and jealousy.

Sincerely,

The Life Section