Real talk, Gloria Steinem: That was no apology

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Gloria Steinem is interviewed by The Jewish Channel at a luncheon in March 2012.

On Friday, known feminist Gloria Steinem was on HBO’s “Real Time with Bill Maher”when she made the following comment on the issue of young women supporting Bernie Sanders: “They’re going to get more activist as they get older. And when you’re young, you’re thinking, ‘Where are the boys?’ The boys are with Bernie.”

There was quite a bit of backlash following this comment, and as a result, Steinem released an “apology” on her Facebook page citing a “misinterpretation” of her words: “In a case of talk-show Interruptus, I misspoke on the Bill Maher show recently, and apologize for what’s been misinterpreted as implying young women aren’t serious in their politics. What I had just said on the same show was the opposite: young women are active, mad as hell about what’s happening to them, graduating in debt, but averaging a million dollars less over their lifetimes to pay it back. Whether they gravitate to Bernie or Hillary, young women are activist and feminist in greater numbers than ever before.”

Apologizing for a misinterpretation is not an apology at all.

Let’s take a closer look at Steinem’s statement, with a process proposed in an article in the Journal of Psycholinguistic Research by psychologists John Darley and Steven Scher, who outlined four steps to an apology: express remorse, admit responsibility, make amends and promise that it won’t happen again.

Is Steinem remorseful? No.

Steinem deliberately sidesteps taking responsibility for her statement that directly harms the credibility of young women voters with the words “apologize for what’s been misinterpreted.” She is not taking responsibility for her actual words, but is instead attempting to construe the idea that the “misinterpretation” requires an apology – not what she said.

This is only driven in further by her saying “What I had just said … was …” which is clearly only an attempt to again sidestep her responsibility in the matter and try to save face with a remark that reinstates that women are, in fact, autonomous beings who can think for themselves.

With no remorse for her actual statement expressed, a sidestepping of responsibility, no amends made, and no promise on not repeating such statements in the future, Steinem failed in her apology.

The comments on her post agree: “To hear that you quite plainly stated ‘the boys are with Bernie’ in response to why young women are voting to Bernie Sanders was not only a sexist statement, but extremely disheartening … this statement doesn’t really confront the problem, nor how much damage your statement did. You chalked up an entire generation of women as brainless who vote for a man’s approval. That’s not why we earned the right to vote.”

Furthermore, what was there to misinterpret? Steinem clearly said young women are more prone to following “boys” than they are to following a political agenda that aligns with their needs. This is an example of ageism at its finest, and sexism too: in particular, young women are unable to think for themselves because they are too busy trying to get a man.

She did not mention the pay gap within that comment, nor that women were “mad as hell,” either – she simply, and damagingly so, said that young female voters were only going for Sanders because they were merely following the boys.

Steinem cannot call herself a feminist when she is participating in spreading the same types of ideas that feminism was founded to fight against.

Unfortunately, Steinem seems to not have realized that she has internalized some sexist and ageist beliefs – and is not accepting responsibility for either.

To the young women who are Bernie Sanders supporters: hang in there. You’ve come this far supporting someone that you believe in, and it is not time to stop. Know that feminism comes in many different forms, and that not all of them are constructive or beneficial.

Steinem will probably never truly apologize for what she said, but you don’t need it – all of you are more powerful than the words of a single person. Keep true to yourselves and speak truth to power in what you choose.