Men shouldn’t be ashamed of arriving early

Ejaculating disorders are common; men should do research into possible causes of coming too soon

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Men shouldn’t be ashamed of arriving early

Women don't have the same extensive recovery period post-orgasm that men do, so this can make some men feel embarrassed about coming too soon.

Women don't have the same extensive recovery period post-orgasm that men do, so this can make some men feel embarrassed about coming too soon.

KIERSTEN BUTTERWORTH | EVERGREEN PHOTO ILLUSTRATION

Women don't have the same extensive recovery period post-orgasm that men do, so this can make some men feel embarrassed about coming too soon.

KIERSTEN BUTTERWORTH | EVERGREEN PHOTO ILLUSTRATION

KIERSTEN BUTTERWORTH | EVERGREEN PHOTO ILLUSTRATION

Women don't have the same extensive recovery period post-orgasm that men do, so this can make some men feel embarrassed about coming too soon.

ALEX BIVIANO, Evergreen columnist

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“Arriving early” in the bedroom can happen to anyone at any given time, and that thought is terrifying to men everywhere. Unlike penis size or any other physical factor in the bedroom, the countdown before liftoff is different in every sexual encounter.

Many experts blame nature rather than nurture for this problem due to the fact that male ejaculation is caused by many different neurological and physical factors.

Ejaculation is a very touchy subject for both men and women. For men, it is often an embarrassing and shameful phenomenon when it really shouldn’t be. About 30 percent of men experience problems with premature ejaculation at some point in their lives, according to Zava.

Some men are born in the same unfortunate situation. Ejaculation disorders are the most common type of sexual disorders in men, according to the National Center for Biotechnology Information.

Erectile dysfunction gets the most attention, but there are many different disorders that prevent people from ejaculating properly.

Premature ejaculation can be lifelong due to medical reasons or can be acquired later in a man’s life. Psychological turmoil such as unusually high levels of stress can lead to the contraction of this disorder.

Coming too soon can be onset by physical ailments that people often don’t connect with sex. According to Zava, Type 2 diabetes is known to cause premature ejaculation.

The multitude of factors that lead to premature ejaculation makes it a tough problem to solve or even normalize. It’s the bane of many mens’ existence but they should not live in shame because of something beyond their control.

There are medicines and techniques for lasting longer in the bedroom. This a necessary remedy for many men, but “treating” the problem may not be the desired outcome going forward.

Finishing early is often a sign that sex is good for the man. Women can have multiple orgasms, so sex naturally escalates and deescalates for them. For men this a different story.

Men should not be afraid to speak up and let their partners know if they are afflicted with the condition and have a discussion on how they can work together to make sex better for both parties.

Sex is an intimate act and sharing personal information with one another should be expected, especially when it affects both partners.

Male hormones only dip when sexual gratitude is achieved and due to a long recovery time post-orgasm, bringing a woman to climax numerous times in one session is possible but often requires rejecting natural feelings for the man.

As sex escalates men get more and more turned on which could lead to a premature friendly fire. Men who are successful at sex have the ability to suppress the feelings of ejaculation and last long enough to please their partner as all men should strive to do.