Dear Abby,

 

Does the G-spot actually exist? I know it does, but where in the heck is it? Also, how do you “hit it?”

 Sincerely,

 The Notorious Hid. Den. G.

 

 

Dear The Notorious Hid. Den. G.,

 The G-Spot or Gräfenberg Spot, named after Ersnt Gräfenberg, was discovered in the 1950s.

Much like ghosts, Sasquatch and other splendid, magical things in the world, its existence has been highly debated over the course of history.

The medical debate over the G-Spot still persists today. For years, medical experts weren’t positive whether the G-Spot was its own anatomical gland or an extended collection of nerve endings on the underside of the clitoris.

Although some controversy still exists, the majorities of medical experts accept the theory of the G-Spot or G-Region and define it as the erogenous zone analogous to the male prostate. It is a bean-shaped area located anywhere from one to three inches up the front vaginal wall between the vaginal opening and the urethra.

With the G-Spot orgasm, women report feeling a deeper, more full-body sensation than they do with traditional clitoral orgasm. According to an article in Women’s Health magazine, 30 percent of women report having a G-Spot orgasm during penetrative sex alone.

For beginners, many

medical professionals advise a self-search.

Celeste Hirschman, assistant professor at the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality, advises that women get aroused first. The G-Spot fills with blood upon arousal, which makes it much easier to find.

“You’re seeking a spongy, puckered, or slightly ridged area, like the roof of your mouth,” Hirschman said. “Many women also describe the feeling of having to pee for a few seconds.”

Provided that you’ve found it on your own and this is no longer a “blind leading the blind” type of situation, you can now more easily add a partner to the mix.

Danielle Harel, professor of sexology at the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality, recommends rotating different stroke patterns with varying pressures for best results. More specifically, she recommends “tapping.”

“The most intense moments of touch along any body part are usually the first few seconds,” Harel said. Tapping increases the repetition of the feeling of first time contact, she said.

In terms of positions, there are many recommended online, but three that Cosmopolitan Magazine recommends: girl on top, doggy, and modified versions of missionary.

My last piece of advice: maximize the advantages of your female anatomy. Women have drawn the short straw in virtually every aspect of biology; child-bearing, the menstrual cycle and menopause are some of the many joys of life that we ‘get’ to experience. It is my belief that multiple forms of orgasm are simply God’s way of paying us back.

 Sincerely,

 Abby